Etiquette and social norms in Singapore

Conversation and communication in Singapore

Singaporeans tend to be reserved and polite in their conversation style, relying on moderate language and non-verbal cues. The tone is important as an indicator of someone’s feelings or emotions. Speaking loudly or brashly is seen as poor etiquette.

Good topics of conversation include work, hobbies, travel, food, or anything cultural, such as films, music, or TV. Avoid discussing religion, politics, or ethnic differences. Studies have shown that less than 10% of Singaporeans engage in political discussions, even with close friends. In fact, the 2020 World Values Survey found lower-than-average levels of interest in politics.

The locals are also typically quite private, so don’t strike up conversations that are too personal in nature.

Body language

As in all countries, indirect communication, such as facial expressions, is important in Singapore. People frequently nod gently while listening to show they are paying attention. It’s important to maintain enough eye contact to show interest and respect without turning a chat into a staring contest. Bear in mind that Malay and Indian people tend to avoid too much eye contact with those they consider as superiors.

Personal space is valued in Singapore. Try to give people at least an arm’s length when speaking to them. Casual touching, for example, a hand on the shoulder, usually only happens among close friends or family. Never touch anyone on the head, as this is a sign of immense disrespect in Singapore.

Expressive hand gestures are relatively rare in Singapore. You can raise your hand and give a little wave to get someone’s attention. Offensive and disrespectful gestures in Singapore include:

• Showing someone the soles of your feet
• Pointing with your index finger
• Hitting your open palm with your fist
• Placing your hands on your hips while talking to someone
• Yawning noisily or elaborately

Sense of humor

A recent study found that Singaporeans value humor as an essential aspect of life. So, what do Singaporeans find funny? Well, a variety of comedy styles go down well. However, as with any country, it’s best to avoid jokes about cultural stereotypes or anything too sensitive.

Other than this, sharp observational humor is popular, especially if it involves complaining about things such as public services. Again, you should keep it tasteful. Slapstick is another popular form of Singaporean comedy, as is humor that plays around with Singlish - the local Singaporean English vernacular.

Irony and dry humor don’t work that well in Singapore, so don’t be too surprised if what you think is a zinger crashes and burns. The general rule in Singapore, as with most places, is to avoid making jokes until you get to know someone’s sense of humor.

Popular comedians in Singapore include Suffian Hakim, who wrote a satire based on Harry Potter.